Jonathan Livingston Seagull 1970, “A soul mate is someone who has the locks to fit our keys, and the keys to fit our locks. Richard Bach. High school reading.
Me before We. 90% of these types of spouses doubts about their marriage.
Core ambition of soul mate myth is to be happily married not stably married.
Decision to love when the romance honeymoon fades and for the betterment of the family.
Happiness is a byproduct of setting one’s sights to something beyond our limited view, virtue.
Family first model, other centered more stable and satisfying marriages[1] Taking husband’s last name shows it is a team dynamic.[2]
Two-legged chair, possible but not stable. 3 legged stool stable and promotes peace and happiness.
Stability, end goal, living life for the other, every morning willing the good for me. Different ways of defining stability.
Jonathan /seagull model examine you preconceived idea what will make me happy. Do you fit the jig saw puzzle today? Most people don’t.
My soul mate knows what I need. Communication shut down, presumption, mini animosities arise. Not mutual understanding.
Called to be childlike not childish. Counterfeit love husbands & wives to have
[1] Wilcox 87
[2] Wilcox 101